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Monday, April 04 2016

We all have people that we answer to.  It could be a boss, superior and/or a pastor. Pastors have pastors (or they should).  These well - meaning people are also human.  They make mistakes and sometimes say or do things that are wrong.  What they do is completely out of your control, but what you do can be a solution or a catalyst to making the issue a bigger deal.  The following are three things that you can do to help the situation.

1. Understand God's will

God has put you where you are.  The current situation may be peaches and cream, but things change.  Joseph went from the favorite son to a slave in a matter of minutes and God allowed it.  It was part of His plan.  

We need to know God's plan for our lives.  Using "God has told me" or it's "God's will" to get your will accomplished is dangerous.  You could put yourself on a path to destruction.  David wrote:

Psalm 143:10 Teach me to do thy will; for thou art my God: thy spirit is good; lead me into the land of uprightness.

Understanding God's will for our lives is a process that is taught through interaction with Jesus through daily prayer, frequent fasting, faithful church attendance and constant Bible study.  

2. Remain calm and stay put

It is difficult to keep your composure when someone speaks against you and/or does something that causes emotional pain.  Words kill. Scars run deep especially if it is someone that you have submitted to as your spiritual leader.  What do you do when someone that you love and trust causes pain?  The writer of Ecclesiastes explains:

Ecclesiastes 10:4 If the spirit of the ruler rise up against thee, leave not thy place; for yielding pacifieth great offences. (KJV)

Ecclesiastes 10:4 If the anger of the ruler rises against you, do not leave your place, for calmness[a] will lay great offenses to rest. (ESV)

There is a blessing that can come from staying put and remaining calm in the face of personal adversity.  It will keep the situation contained. The Amplified Bible says, "because composure and calmness prevent great offences".  When an authority figure comes against you in word or deed, it is in that moment of great stress that you have to make a decision.  You can:

  • Get offended

Jesus said, " And then shall many be offended, and shall betray one another, and shall hate one another".  We must avoid the spirit of offense in the church.  It is destroying our society.

  • Quit

 The writer of Ecclesiastes wrote that quitting is not the answer.  Plus, it is never a good idea to make an emotional spur of the moment decision.

  • Pout, whine, complain and gossip

You know pouting, whining, complaining and gossiping is never a good idea.

  • Do the right thing

Doing the right thing is never wrong (see how I did that),  Bite your tongue, remain calm and do not make any rash decisions.  God will bless you for your self-control by preventing further problems.

3. Pray for the other person

I once had a server at a restaurant that was having the worse day of her life (well, it seemed that way).  She dropped a tray spilling soda onto a customer.  The patrons were understanding and she finally explained that she had received some very bad news concerning her mother. Her mind was not in the game, if you will.  

Can a minister have a bad day and react poorly to something that happens around them?  YES.  Should they receive grace? YES. Once again, you have a choice.  You can tell your friend or tell Jesus.  You can gossip or talk to the problem solver.  Your choice.  

Prayer changes us.  Perhaps, the situation was not as it seems and you are the one that is wrong.  Prayer will reveal that.  

What if other person is dealing with problems that need prayer, grace and mercy?  

We need to be like Jesus when dealing with people.  When Jesus was betrayed, he still called Judas a "friend".  

When dealing with situations that arise quickly, you must already have in your mind the Word of God so that you react in the proper manner.  Our Bible study and prayer times are boot camp for the soul.  When properly trained our actions will be in accordance to the Word of God.


Posted by: Pastor Robert P. Eaby, Jr. AT 02:53 pm   |  Permalink   |  Email